Friends How Many Of Us Have Them…

In today's world you often find people on two sides of the friendship pond…. They either have a group of fillers or don't have any friends. By definition a friend is:
a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard, one that is not hostile, a favored companion. And the definition of friendship is: the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship. A friendly relation or intimacy, friendly feeling or disposition. When people say that friends are hard to find I totally agree, being someone's friend is accepting them for who they are flaws and all. It's so easy these days to get caught it in the hype of being the "it group of friends". The media has also help screw up the meaning of friendship as well; on most of the reality shows those women are associates or acquaintances. That's the main reason they cannot keep their drinks or hands off each other. There should be no amount of money that someone offers you to turn on your TRUE friends like that. I consider myself lucky that I was able to find great people during my journey. The crazy part is we don't argue, I have never had to confront them about talking my business, and I feel totally comfortable telling them any and everything if I need to. Friends are there to help you when you fall, I was out of a job for over a year and my friends stepped up and helped me with no questions asked and for nothing in return. You have you learn how to be a good friend, because I myself have not always been a good friend. I had to grow as a person to learn how to be respectful of other people. I think friendship is an honor, so you have to make sure the friends you choose are cream of the crop. Sometimes I hear people discussing their friends business and I get instantly mad because, for gossip sake it may be entertaining but just knowing that this person is sitting here telling all that person business is sad. We someone confides in you they should not have to say don't say anything, please don't tell anyone, or make you swear to high heavens. Something's you should just know not to tell. I need friends who will tell me the truth when needed, listen when needed, and be my advocate when needed. You don't just want a yes man; someone is available to hit the club, pretty in the face, or fat and out of shape to make you feel better. I called friends like those fillers, they just go with the flow and it's cool but the minute a scandal hit they are gone or try to gain from it. Don't be my friend because you ran all your other friends off, you want to boost yourself esteem. Choose me as a friend because you like me, don't just put up with me, be my friend because we share some of the same ideals and beliefs. I don't think the magic is in the numbers or how many pictures you take… it's in the personal relationships you build. If you and your friends have a true bond, people will see that from a mile away. The other week I posted a few pictures from my birthday party and I received so many mixed comments about them. When I sent my co worker the link, and told her that we played around so much we only had 15mins to do the photo shoot. She asked if they where my cousins, I jokingly replied back not all black people look alike...She replied you guys seem so bonded and close. Later that day I looked over the photos and found all the imperfections in the pictures but realized that they were perfect. Would I have preferred a two hour session over the 15 min session (thanks to a timer and chace) YES!!! But looking over the photo shoot I saw the personalities that made me love each and every one of them. I am blessed to have high school friends, college friends, and friends along the way. My relationship with each and every one of them is different and I love it!!! And the added bonus is they all get a long…which is why I know I choose the perfect group!!! If you have good friends cherish them and if you have questionable friends let them go!! Nothing should be complicated about friendships they should be natural….

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down-
Oprah Winfrey

 

I was reading an article the other day named 6 types of friends you should not have and they gave a celebrity example of each which I found interesting: Make sure to comment and tell me what your thoughts on each are

 

1. The Drama Queen (NeNe Leakes)

2. The Bully (Tami Roman)

3. Ms.Self Absorded (Tamar Braxton)

4. Mrs. Two Faced (Suzy Ketchem)

5. The Instigator (Chrissy Lampkin)

6. The one with too many man problems (Jennifer Williams)

 

On the flip side I read an article awhile back about what types of friends you should have,

 

1. The cheerleader
   
2. The big Momma
   
3. The paper chaser
   
4. The wing women
   
5. The party girl