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Letter To My Readers.......

Yesterday it was brought to my attention that a few folks felt as if I was talking about them in my blog. The crazy thing is if me and you have no beef (and even if we did) why would I blog about you, There are many people who fit into that blog including myself. There was a time someone told me stop putting “him” on there, so I totally get it. I guess the difference between me and the “few” people who think that the blog was about them are…. For one I could never read something and figure it was all about me unless there was a name on it, me and the person had some type of beef, or if there where intimate details discussed which was not!! And also as women I would address the situation accordingly meaning to speak directly to the person who I felt has written about me. It’s like this sometimes I sit in church and it seems as if the preacher is talking directly to me…. When in fact there are probably about 20 other people who feel the same way. Do I take offense to it NO…. why because he is speaking in general. There are many facebook updates that are speaking to me…… do I take offence to it NO because that’s life!!! You are never the only person doing a certain thing, saying a certain thing so chill out!! I am not about to go all first 48 on the issue.... and try and figure who left the comment… was the person really talking about me on facebook…. Inbox….text message NONE OF THAT…….. So you can read or not read… But please don’t come on MY blog and say negative things or go to facebook and shoot slugs at me and have the A team cheer you on…. Because truth is the person who you are inquiring about is on Mute anyway so I could not have been talking about that person so I guess that’s the answer to your question…. Now enough with all the serious stuff..... I would love to thank everyone who called...texted...and went on facebook in support of my blog It means wonders to me and I am so glad people get it... if you read my blog you will see I speak in GENERAL about a lot of things and will call myself out on my issues as well!!! THANKS AND KEEP READING!!!

Happy Birthday Kandace

Wishing A Happy Birthday to Kandance Hall...... I did a write up about her getting married a few months ago and what better way to say Happy Birthday to her by posting a few wedding pics!!! Soooo Happy Birthday Diva and congrats on your wedding!!!

Grinds My Gears

I swear if there was a place you can go and file for words and sayings to be put to rest, I would be first in line to put a end to the word “haters”. Every time I login into facebook I have to read about 10 statuses about someone being hated on. Let’s be clear in order for someone to hate on you… you have to be doing something worthy of being hated on. Getting a cute outfit from forever 21(which I love that place) is nothing worthy of you being hated on. Also taking care of your children, going to work are all things that you should do… So there is NO need for a pat on the back. The problem is folks use the word hate all wrong. When you go on any social site and post your every move folks may come to a conclusion about you based on things you post… if every day you are at happy hour with your girls (takes face to face pictures every five mins) and your kids look a mess, failing classes at school, out having sex and doing drugs. Then when folks say you don’t have your priorities right don't get mad …. HELLO you are giving people a platform to sit and judge you!!! And just a quick tip if you don’t put that you are at happy hour everyday folks may not be able to add that to the list of why you suck as a parent!!! Also if you always have x- rated status about having sex and up loading pictures bent all over in your panties…. then when folks assume you are easy or don’t take you seriously now you know why… why would someone want their girlfriend,wife,employee looking like that on the world wide web. Leave that behind closed doors. And if you always talking about a mystery man all you doing is making people wonder who “he” or “him” may be….. when every other day your status looks like this “waiting on my boo to call” “ the Mr. will be mad if i wear this” well when folks say you sleeping with old girl man it’s makes it just that much more believable … if you have your own man then say that…and if you have a man that you don’t want folks to know about…keep that shit to yourself!!! If rumor has it that you are creeping and all your updates look like this “I Just love me some him” “they gone be mad” etc… and the you upload links to songs like “with me” by destiny child (do you ever wonder when he don’t come home, who he goes and see) I mean sounds like to me you are sleeping with old girl man… And since we are on the subject of men….. LADIES LADIES PLEASE STAY OFF FACEBOOK WITH YOUR MAN ISSUES GOOD AND BAD!!! It’s okay every now and then to profess your love for your man (I LOVE YOU CHACE RAY) but really you only setting yourself up for two things….. People waiting to see your relationship fail or some curious women/man wanting your man!!! You wonder why people have opinions about your relationship… I mean we know everything that’s going on straight from the horse’s mouth and you open the door for negative feedback. My mission is to have people wondering about my relationship because I don’t need folks in my business!! Because truth be told I can’t stand my boyfriend at times and at other times he is my world and I don’t expect for you to understand that or want you to have to wonder when you see us is our relationship a big “FRONT”. And another thing that grinds my gears is when people have a status about GOD and they say a curse word or two, or even be ugly towards the end. Example “God has been too good to me to let you messy 304’s get to me” or “I am so happy that GOD has changed me because some of yall are still in last place… etc” When you use his name nothing you are saying should be negative or boastful. If GOD has been good to you praise him and move on. I know sometimes you just want to testify on how good he has been, and by all means do that, but be tasteful when you do it.. “God has been good to me and I thank him for working on me, this joy I have the world did not give it me and the world cannot take it away” now that sounds way better and you are saying almost the same thing. Now I do have my moments where I may get on facebook and say some off the wall things but as I have grown those are fair and few in between, you have to watch the way you portray your life on the social sites because that is how some people perceive you to be. YOUR LIFE IS NOT PERFECT so don't act like it is, because when you have a not so perfect moment folks are all over your back!! YOUR ARE NOT ALWAYS BEING HATED ON, so stop saying that because you should never always be the “victim”… don’t compare yourself to god” ( they hated on GOD) because we all fall short!! And if at the end of the day you still want to do all these things … keep the word “Haters” out your mouth…. Sorry for going in but these are just a few things that “Grinds My Gears”

In Love With Love....

I guess you guys knew I would respond to the Kim K and her 72 day marriage.... Here are my thoughts..... I think that the wedding was not a scam... I truly believe she wanted to be married now her reasons for that no one can say. If you are fan or her show( which I am) then you would know that Kim falls in love fast, and she has never hid the fact that she wanted to be married and have kids. I think the issue that bothers me is.... folks are really passing judgement on her when in reality.... We all know folks who have gotten married for all the wrong reasons...And we know folks who should have filed for divorce a month after marriage but to busy worried about that folks will say or trying to prove the haters wrong... But since her life is public we all sit and judge her. No I am not taking up for her because from watching the show I could see that her marriage would not last ... He wanted to make her something she could never be and that's regular stay at home wife. Kim gets paid to be on the scene so why would she change that? People talk about her not taking marriage seriously when half the folks you know... Are the same way!! The most funniest thing is... if it was a scam or not... I don't know many people who pass up 17 million to get married... you can sit and say no... but that's because it will never happen to you. So my feelings are think before you judge her, and if its all a lie that's her she has to live with that... But from watching the show.. Kim just wants to have a family..and the fact that her sisters both are starting families she may have RUSHED it.... the girl loves hard she is in love with the idea of being in love!!!

Think Pink....

Facts you need to know about breast cancer:

The breast cancer mortality rate for African American women is 36% higher than white women
* Among women under age 40, African Americans have a higher incidence of breast cancer than white women. (American Cancer Society, Cancer Facts & Figures for African Americans 2009-
*Research shows that aggressive tumor characteristics are common in African American women than white women
*An estimated 6,040 black women’s lives are expected to be lost to breast Cancer in 2011 and a total of 26,840 new cases of the disease will be seen among us by the end of the year
* Breast cancer is the most common cancer and the second leading cause of death among African American women. (American Cancer Society, Cancer Facts and Figures for African Americans 2011-2012
* The five-year survival rate for African American women diagnosed with breast cancer is 79 percent. (American Cancer Society, Cancer Facts & Figures 2010)
* The incidence of a second breast cancer in an opposite breast is higher among black women. (Fourth American Association for Cancer Research Conference, The Science of Cancer Health Disparities, Sept. 18-21, 2011)
* The prevalence of Vitamin D deficiency in black women is up to six times higher than that of white women. (Era of Hope Breast Cancer Conference, Department of Defense Breast Cancer Research Program, Aug.2-5, 2011)
* Women who don’t breast feed have a 50 percent higher chance of developing certain types of breast cancer. (Black Women’s Health Study, Cancer Epidemiology, Bio-markers & Prevention, 2011)
* African American women who use oral contraceptives have a greater likelihood of developing breast cancer. (Black Women’s Health Study, Cancer Epidemiology, Bio-markers & Prevention, 2011
* Social support from family and friends is important during diagnosis and survival stages. (Cancer Nursing, Nov/Dec 2008)

You do the math... and make sure you and a loved one go and have mammogram done, and in between those always do self checks!!!

HOW TO DO A BREAST SELF-EXAM

In the Shower
Fingers flat, move gently over every part of each breast. Use your right hand to examine the left breast, left hand for the right breast. Check for any lump, hard knot, or thickening. Carefully observe any changes in your breasts.

Before a Mirror
Inspect your breasts with your arms at your sides. Next, raise your arms high overhead.
Look for any changes in the contour of each breast, a swelling, a dimpling of the skin, or changes in the nipples. Then rest your palms on your hips and press firmly to flex your chest muscles. Left and right breasts will not exactly match—few women's breasts do.

Lying Down
Place a pillow under your right shoulder and put your right arm behind your head. With the fingers of your left hand flat, press your right breast gently in small circular motions, moving vertically or in a circular pattern covering the entire breast. -->
Use light, medium, and firm pressure. Squeeze the nipple; check for discharge and lumps. Repeat these steps for your left breast.

Who are you Nailing.....

Nail polish has never really been my thing.... until recently thanks to one of my best buds(tonette). For some odd reason I thought I was too dark for alot of the colors I liked. Boy was I wrong because some colors look better on darker skin tones. When she graduated as a gift I brought her a boxed filled with nail polish and boy did she love it... soon after I found myself in her box often. I love nail polish because it is such a great accessory, and also I can change it based on how I am feeling that day which is cool!! After reading a few articles I came up with the top four nail polish trends of fall 2011:

1. neutrals colors: (here are some of my favs) Samoan sand, at first sight, san tan- tonio

2. Metallics:(some of my favs) rally pretty pink, peridot, graphite

3.Glitter: (some of my favs) teenage dream, servin up sparkle, rainbow connection

4.Nail appliques: (brands) Sally Hansen, INCOCO

Next time you are in a store pick up a color that you would never get and ROCK IT!!!

Sideliner or Prime Timer?

Does second place get a prize? After countless conversations about cheating and being the other the woman I think it time to discuss this. Which side of the fence you reside on? I must admit I have had the pleasure of being on both sides. Is this something I pride myself in NO, but it is part of my story and I could never act as if it did not happen. We are all human and make mistakes so please don’t judge me. Here is where I stand…. When I was just starting college I indeed dated a guy who had a girlfriend(s) for me it was never about her or me it started out as something to do. I mean he really wanted me and seemed nice so I was like “what the hell” and took him up on his offer of dinner and a movie. The best thing is I now can look back on that situation and truly thank god... That I am healthy and came out with a sound mind and no children. He was a great teacher… and I was his best student, Young pretty and unaware of my worth!! It was all fun and games in the early stages and as time went on, this relationship started wanting more of me, I wanted to build a life around this lie many sleepless nights, many broken promises. I mean one day cloud nine the next day… I hated him; it was the roller coaster emotions that sometimes kept me I knew he would always make it up to me and that I loved!!! One day while sitting with a friend, she asked me what was his girlfriend name was… and when I had to think and name a few names, I knew that this was a mess that I had myself in. But being with him was my drug … to this day he still gives me chills… I mean I could write a book about us and you really would not believe it. But I also knew that I could not continue seeing him after so many of my family members warned me, he is too old for you, too much experience for you. I never seen any valid reasons for them to all dislike our relationship like that, I was blind and could not see past his amazing personality. Don’t get me wrong he is not the devil; he is actually a great guy, just not for me during that time. One day I woke up and wanted more….. I did the math and no matter how I tried to add it we could have never made it. So I walked away, I walked away so upset with myself at how I acted. But I also knew I could never be the other women. I never understood why some women go after men with a wife or girlfriend why would you set yourself up for the part- time happiness and never ending pain and embarrassment? When I was dating that guy I never set out to take him from her, nor did I try… it was simply something to do I never really knew who is girlfriend was because he had a few (simple I know) and when the time came around that I wanted him to be my man, I knew I had made one of the biggest mistakes in my life. So why would you want to sneak around with someone, be that get-a-way girl, why would you want to spend countless nights alone knowing the one you want is in the arms of someone else , why would you not want to be this trophy, just the box he hides underneath his bed. People say as a woman you should never do that to other women, and that’s true but your main concern should be why you would do that to yourself. This is a time when you need to be selfish and think of only you!!!! Life had taught me a lot of things and something’s you have to go threw to understand, I totally understand the thrill in being with someone you are not suppose to be with and I also understand the pain that its cause on the people involved and that’s a risk I don’t ever want to take again. When I found myself in that situation again where I was perceived as being the other women I removed myself, the fact of that matter was he was dating and lying to both of us… and that’s just something I don’t want to deal with as well, I don’t want to compete with anyone, I don’t want to walk in a room and know that people are gossiping about the fact that he is not claiming me, or not claiming her or even worse he is not claiming either one of us, and we are both looking stupid. I take things for what they are…. if you have been with a man that has cheated on you numerous times and you have run off all the “hoes” he has been with… they should thank you!!! And you should look in the mirror and get ready to run the next wave of “hoes” off. Everyone deals with cheating in relationships but when it becomes a normal occurrence you may need to go back to the drawing board. There you have it....