Grinds My Gears

I swear if there was a place you can go and file for words and sayings to be put to rest, I would be first in line to put a end to the word “haters”. Every time I login into facebook I have to read about 10 statuses about someone being hated on. Let’s be clear in order for someone to hate on you… you have to be doing something worthy of being hated on. Getting a cute outfit from forever 21(which I love that place) is nothing worthy of you being hated on. Also taking care of your children, going to work are all things that you should do… So there is NO need for a pat on the back. The problem is folks use the word hate all wrong. When you go on any social site and post your every move folks may come to a conclusion about you based on things you post… if every day you are at happy hour with your girls (takes face to face pictures every five mins) and your kids look a mess, failing classes at school, out having sex and doing drugs. Then when folks say you don’t have your priorities right don't get mad …. HELLO you are giving people a platform to sit and judge you!!! And just a quick tip if you don’t put that you are at happy hour everyday folks may not be able to add that to the list of why you suck as a parent!!! Also if you always have x- rated status about having sex and up loading pictures bent all over in your panties…. then when folks assume you are easy or don’t take you seriously now you know why… why would someone want their girlfriend,wife,employee looking like that on the world wide web. Leave that behind closed doors. And if you always talking about a mystery man all you doing is making people wonder who “he” or “him” may be….. when every other day your status looks like this “waiting on my boo to call” “ the Mr. will be mad if i wear this” well when folks say you sleeping with old girl man it’s makes it just that much more believable … if you have your own man then say that…and if you have a man that you don’t want folks to know about…keep that shit to yourself!!! If rumor has it that you are creeping and all your updates look like this “I Just love me some him” “they gone be mad” etc… and the you upload links to songs like “with me” by destiny child (do you ever wonder when he don’t come home, who he goes and see) I mean sounds like to me you are sleeping with old girl man… And since we are on the subject of men….. LADIES LADIES PLEASE STAY OFF FACEBOOK WITH YOUR MAN ISSUES GOOD AND BAD!!! It’s okay every now and then to profess your love for your man (I LOVE YOU CHACE RAY) but really you only setting yourself up for two things….. People waiting to see your relationship fail or some curious women/man wanting your man!!! You wonder why people have opinions about your relationship… I mean we know everything that’s going on straight from the horse’s mouth and you open the door for negative feedback. My mission is to have people wondering about my relationship because I don’t need folks in my business!! Because truth be told I can’t stand my boyfriend at times and at other times he is my world and I don’t expect for you to understand that or want you to have to wonder when you see us is our relationship a big “FRONT”. And another thing that grinds my gears is when people have a status about GOD and they say a curse word or two, or even be ugly towards the end. Example “God has been too good to me to let you messy 304’s get to me” or “I am so happy that GOD has changed me because some of yall are still in last place… etc” When you use his name nothing you are saying should be negative or boastful. If GOD has been good to you praise him and move on. I know sometimes you just want to testify on how good he has been, and by all means do that, but be tasteful when you do it.. “God has been good to me and I thank him for working on me, this joy I have the world did not give it me and the world cannot take it away” now that sounds way better and you are saying almost the same thing. Now I do have my moments where I may get on facebook and say some off the wall things but as I have grown those are fair and few in between, you have to watch the way you portray your life on the social sites because that is how some people perceive you to be. YOUR LIFE IS NOT PERFECT so don't act like it is, because when you have a not so perfect moment folks are all over your back!! YOUR ARE NOT ALWAYS BEING HATED ON, so stop saying that because you should never always be the “victim”… don’t compare yourself to god” ( they hated on GOD) because we all fall short!! And if at the end of the day you still want to do all these things … keep the word “Haters” out your mouth…. Sorry for going in but these are just a few things that “Grinds My Gears”