Morning Thought….

Each Day I wake up it seems as if the layers of things that once stressed me are peeling back softly….. I in a million years would have never thought my pregnancy journey would teach me so many things!! I see things through a different pair of eyes these days…. I have become so much like my mother, she always made it clear that her children and family came first… and that's a promise she has always kept!! As much as I love my mother in the last few months my love has grown tremendously!!! To her I am still her baby... And anything that bothers me it bothers her I never knew even at my age she is very overprotective of me!!! I have learned to take things with a grain of salt and not waddle in things I cannot change, and that has come from chace…. He is such a huge blessing and supporter in my life!! He will tell me when I am wrong…. And I like that which makes me value his opinion even more!! I have allowed myself to have Peace and that is one of the greatest gifts I could have received…. My faith has grown so much that I Look forward to bible study and church… I am learning so much!! THANK GOD FOR LESSONS AND GROWTH…. I am human so both of those things are necessary!!

 

Here are some things I have learned while pregnant….

1. People will smile at just the site of your bump
   
2. People are very helpful even strangers…..
   
3. I worry… and I do a lot of it….
   
4. I am such a loved girl…. Every time I have posted on facebook that I was hungry someone has brought and paid for me some food!!! Lol
   
5. I don't like being the center of attention, lol Most times when I walk in the room or people come over we talk about me… I walk in a room and all eyes and questions on me!!
   
6. My life is just about to begin!!
   

"Faith doesn't get you around trouble, it gets you through it"

Say Cheese.....

Boy the weekends sure do fly by…. I had yet another busy and fun filled weekend!!! Me and chace finally took our maternity pictures and the best word to describe it would be INTERESTING!!! I have been around chace and his children (Flex,Doc,Brandy,Remy) for a while now… But we have never had to pose with each other and I never knew how afraid of them I really was… I Have a fear of horses eating my hair.. Needless to say we pulled it off and his children added a funny twist to the photo shoot!! Flex which is the baby wanted ALL of the camera time… Almost in every picture flex is in the background smiling trying to give chace or me kisses!! It’s so funny how flex knew how to smile when she put the camera to her face!! Here are few behind the scenes pictures from the weekend!! We have some really funny ones will upload those later!! Also in Handy man news…. Chace was able to put my rocking chair together this weekend And I must admit I am loving the chair so much I have sitting in the room for hours at a time, chace told me to stay out of the baby room dirtying it up!! Lol which I have…. That is now my favorite spot!!

The Count Down......

The countdown has started don’t know if I should just for joy or become scared… … 49 days until I finally meet my little Baby Boy and the thought Of that fills me with so much joy!!! Also 19 days until my baby shower that I have worked so hard to put together will be here… the thought of that makes my tummy hurt!!! I must say that while at bible study I had an amazing breakthrough and I will apply it to the remainder of my planning for my shower. Here is the short version of what almost had me in tears…. Don’t expect anyone to do for you… Don’t think because you have done it for them they will do it for you… make peace with it and let go!! That way when you do things for others you will not be bitter about it… Do it from your heart!!! I was so caught up in the lack of help I had that I was becoming VERY bitter!!! But I should have been focused on the people who are helping and move on… It’s my shower my baby… NO ONE OWES ME ANYTHING!!! Now that I have been put in my place I am ready to move forward and enjoy the process!! I am super excited for the shower to see all my favorite folks and to see what goodies the Baby will get!! Down below are the invites for me and chace showers…. Fun times are ahead!!!

Hey Yall

Hello Folks It’s been awhile I know…. This Full Time Working while pregnant thing has kicked my butt!!! I cannot wait to share my little bundle of joy with you guys!! I have been busy planning a shower for myself and chace, let’s just say this needs to hurry up and be over…. Someone will get hurt!! The theme for the baby room is Western as well as the shower…. I have been racking my brain trying to tie in the theme and make it look effortless rather than corny western. I will try my best to start up dating my other blog with all the baby stuff soon and get back to blogging!! Also the journal challenge is still on... I just could not commit fully to it… so I will start it after the baby shower!! Here are a few pictures of chace being the handy man that he is… and my baby bedding looking forward to any ideas that can tie into the baby room!!!

Congrats to one of my childhood classmates and friend... Best Wishes to you and your husband may GOD bless you with many joy filled years!! I must say going to a wedding that started on time was a first for me!!! The worst part of this wedding was that I was not able to partake in the "OPEN BAR".... down below are a few candid’s from this fabulous event!

Hey Yall I am Back……

Hello Everyone I am back…. I took some much needed time off!! I have so many fun things going on in my life right now I could barley focus!!!! As some of you many know I AM EXPECTING MY FIRST BABY!!!! (JUMPS UP AND DOWN). And let me tell you it's been a fun ride so far!!!! I am so thankful for all of you who have emailed me, wrote me on facebook, or asked when would I blog again. You truly inspire me!! Because I don't want to bore you are get on your nerves with "BABY TALK" I have created a separate blog for all that "MOMMY STUFF". So make sure you come by and check me out next week I have some great post coming up… always feel free to email me or facebook me about topics you want to discuss!!! PEACE AND LOVE!!!

Friends How Many Of Us Have Them…

In today's world you often find people on two sides of the friendship pond…. They either have a group of fillers or don't have any friends. By definition a friend is:
a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard, one that is not hostile, a favored companion. And the definition of friendship is: the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship. A friendly relation or intimacy, friendly feeling or disposition. When people say that friends are hard to find I totally agree, being someone's friend is accepting them for who they are flaws and all. It's so easy these days to get caught it in the hype of being the "it group of friends". The media has also help screw up the meaning of friendship as well; on most of the reality shows those women are associates or acquaintances. That's the main reason they cannot keep their drinks or hands off each other. There should be no amount of money that someone offers you to turn on your TRUE friends like that. I consider myself lucky that I was able to find great people during my journey. The crazy part is we don't argue, I have never had to confront them about talking my business, and I feel totally comfortable telling them any and everything if I need to. Friends are there to help you when you fall, I was out of a job for over a year and my friends stepped up and helped me with no questions asked and for nothing in return. You have you learn how to be a good friend, because I myself have not always been a good friend. I had to grow as a person to learn how to be respectful of other people. I think friendship is an honor, so you have to make sure the friends you choose are cream of the crop. Sometimes I hear people discussing their friends business and I get instantly mad because, for gossip sake it may be entertaining but just knowing that this person is sitting here telling all that person business is sad. We someone confides in you they should not have to say don't say anything, please don't tell anyone, or make you swear to high heavens. Something's you should just know not to tell. I need friends who will tell me the truth when needed, listen when needed, and be my advocate when needed. You don't just want a yes man; someone is available to hit the club, pretty in the face, or fat and out of shape to make you feel better. I called friends like those fillers, they just go with the flow and it's cool but the minute a scandal hit they are gone or try to gain from it. Don't be my friend because you ran all your other friends off, you want to boost yourself esteem. Choose me as a friend because you like me, don't just put up with me, be my friend because we share some of the same ideals and beliefs. I don't think the magic is in the numbers or how many pictures you take… it's in the personal relationships you build. If you and your friends have a true bond, people will see that from a mile away. The other week I posted a few pictures from my birthday party and I received so many mixed comments about them. When I sent my co worker the link, and told her that we played around so much we only had 15mins to do the photo shoot. She asked if they where my cousins, I jokingly replied back not all black people look alike...She replied you guys seem so bonded and close. Later that day I looked over the photos and found all the imperfections in the pictures but realized that they were perfect. Would I have preferred a two hour session over the 15 min session (thanks to a timer and chace) YES!!! But looking over the photo shoot I saw the personalities that made me love each and every one of them. I am blessed to have high school friends, college friends, and friends along the way. My relationship with each and every one of them is different and I love it!!! And the added bonus is they all get a long…which is why I know I choose the perfect group!!! If you have good friends cherish them and if you have questionable friends let them go!! Nothing should be complicated about friendships they should be natural….

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down-
Oprah Winfrey

 

I was reading an article the other day named 6 types of friends you should not have and they gave a celebrity example of each which I found interesting: Make sure to comment and tell me what your thoughts on each are

 

1. The Drama Queen (NeNe Leakes)

2. The Bully (Tami Roman)

3. Ms.Self Absorded (Tamar Braxton)

4. Mrs. Two Faced (Suzy Ketchem)

5. The Instigator (Chrissy Lampkin)

6. The one with too many man problems (Jennifer Williams)

 

On the flip side I read an article awhile back about what types of friends you should have,

 

1. The cheerleader
   
2. The big Momma
   
3. The paper chaser
   
4. The wing women
   
5. The party girl
   

Divine At 29.......

I am blessed to say that GOD has allowed me to be on this earth for 28 full years, on January 17 I started the next chapter of my life….. And boy did I start chapter 29 off with a BANG…… thanks to my friends and family I was given two surprise gatherings. I am truly blessed…. I have amazing people in my life who thought enough of me to want to surprise me. My first gathering was held at Hotel ZaZa…. Which included make-up, pictures and girl talk, after that we went to one of my favorite restaurants Maggiano's then after a great dinner we met up with some more friends and partied at grooves… And we sure had fun!!! My second gathering was the next day which was done by some family members… Food, Drinks and good music!!!! After the house party we went to our local club and partied longer!!! Here are a few pictures and a slide show below Hope you enjoy!!!

Letting Go of Grudges….

You have to let go of your grudges whether it's a justified grudge or not….. We all have seen friendships and relationships disappear in the blink of an eye. When is it time to bury the hatchet and move on? Its awkward being around someone you would normally talk to and after a disagreement you can barley look each other in the eyes. Why do we hold on to such senseless grudges, even when you have moved on from it or made peace with it? I think people may think extending the olive branch is the same as waving the white flag. The fear that the other person may reject your offer to move past the situation, which does happens. When a person chooses to hold ill feelings towards you, make peace with it and be done. It really bothers me when you hear people say (myself included) "I have not liked her since high school, she was talking to such and such while we were together" Really? How many times have you moved on, she moved on, and he moved on, yet you are still holding on the bitterness… Not saying that everyone you have beef with you should reach out to and skip down the street holding hands. But those you come into contact with on regular basis (family members, close friends, co workers, church members, in laws etc) smooth things over so when you see each other you can act normal and not have the room full of tension. Doing so will help you stay off "defensive mode" while in their presence. Sometimes writing a letter and saying what's on your mind can work wonders. It can start an open dialogue to fixing the problems that you and that person may have. It's crazy because I wrote this Blog Post last week and never posted it. I attended bible study last night and this was our group lesson, so I had to share. While writing this blog I know that I as well need to tie up some loose ends with a few folks. Just to free myself!!! It is my hope that you will read and share the post with someone, and you maybe extend the olive branch or bury the hatchet. Make sure to share your experience if you choose to challenge yourself to let go of old baggage…. LET IT GOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

Educated folks

Everyone should be proud of any accomplishment but when does being proud turns into bragging? You never really know how a person feels when you slap them with " because I have a degree" Just some random girl talk opened my eyes to what other people really and truly thought about those who throw their education in everyone face. Being that I am a college graduate I can fully understand the happiness and joy a person may feel to have received any type of degree. But even for me it bothers me when people use the "I have a degree "term on the regular. The fact that you have a degree is not relevant in every conversation, if you are having a casual conversation people really don't want to hear that. If a person knows you then I am pretty sure they also know your educational background. If the conversation is about school or even job opportunities then it's more appropriate. During the girl talk I could totally relate to the fact that maybe this person did not have someone to push them to do better, they had a very bad childhood and maybe have not recovered from it, maybe they want to go to school but don't know where to start. I use to hate the saying "school is not for everyone" now I get it, there are truly successful non famous people without degrees and the fact that you have a piece of paper does not make you any better. Sometimes I feel that by people always throwing around credentials they are trying to make themselves appear to be better than others. By no means am I telling anyone not to be proud of having a degree, but at the end of the day you have to been mindful of those who did not have the opportunity to experience such a wonderful accomplishment.